3 Proven Steps to Silence Your Inner Critic and Embrace Confidence with Boudoir Photography, Even if You've Never Felt Beautiful Before

I feel so strongly about the transformative power of boudoir that I wrote a book. It’s a little bit about me, a lot about the ladies I’ve served over the years, and tips to help you heal your own self-image.

I never felt like any of the other girls growing up.  I was sure there was fundamentally wrong with me. 

I stood in front of the mirror, the bathroom light casting a soft, unforgiving glow. My reflection staring back at me, eyes filled with doubts and insecurities that seemed all too familiar. 

I could see it all — the imperfections, the flaws, the little things that I'd always been so critical of. A tinge of sadness lingered in my eyes, reflecting not just my image but the image countless women see when they look at themselves. The surroundings seemed cold, impersonal, a stark contrast to the warmth I tried to feel.

I lamented my widening hips, pinching the flesh across my mid-section.  I didn’t have a flat tummy.  My thunder thighs had their own zip code. My hair was coarse and frizzy, and I had this weird-ass haircut because my mom didn’t like me cutting my own hair, and I had to get it cut at the salon again.  I wouldn’t let my hairstylist cut any layers in it because I was determined to grow it all out again. I looked like a bad bowl cut gone wrong.  

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Discover the power of self-love and self-acceptance with Boudoir Revival. This book offers a transformative path to understanding your own self-worth and embracing your unique beauty. Whether you're seeking to boost your self-confidence, rekindle your self-love, or simply be inspired by empowering stories, this book will help you find the courage to reclaim your beauty.

In Boudoir Revival, you'll discover the secret to a life-changing transformation:

- Real-life case studies of women who experienced life-changing transformations through boudoir sessions.
- Practical tips and advice for building self-confidence and fostering self-love in your everyday life.
- Heartfelt narratives that resonate and inspire, reminding you that your journey to self-acceptance is both valid and beautiful.

Plus, get inspiring stories, actionable advice, and powerful strategies to boost your self-confidence and foster self-love.

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Transform Your Body Image in 30 Days with my FREE challenge!

According to a study done by Park Nicollet Melrose Center, 80% of women hate their bodies. The media, societal expectations, even the teachings of our mothers may have led us to believe our bodies will never be "just right". It's a painful cycle, but I’m here to help you break free.

Join my 30-day self-love challenge and let's rewrite the narrative! Each day, you'll complete a simple task that encourages a healthier, more loving relationship with your body.

It's a path filled with simple daily tasks that will empower you to see yourself in a whole new light! 🌟

And guess what? By completing this transformative challenge, you'll not only learn to love yourself, but also earn a $500 credit good towards certain products in my collections.  These photos will capture the beautiful and confident YOU that's been there all along! 📸

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The Stranger in the Mirror

I specialize in giving power back to clients, power that society attempts to take from them through it’s constant obsession with “eating clean”, never being thin enough, fit enough, pretty enough, enough anything, but it always vexes me when I get a client who suffers from Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD).

What is Body Dysmorphic Disorder? BDD is an obsession with flaws or distortions in one’s appearance that the mind has either exaggerated to a tremendous degree, or that simply do not exist.

I took one look at my unnaturally thin client while she explained to me that her doctor told her that she can’t workout anymore because she is too underweight.  I knew that I would need to pose her to accentuate any curves in her body, and explained to her that she is the rare bird who will be able to do a lot of poses showing sharp angles.   

Fashion photography, and boudoir photography not only focus on detail shots but also shapes, like curves and angles.  A bent leg or a bent arm typically looks better than both legs or elbows being straight.  Angles with lots of negative space look even better and her very thin frame was perfect showcasing poses that would demonstrate same. 

She examined her body in front of me.  I can only imagine how vulnerable she felt, standing there nearly naked in front of a near stranger.  

“I hate that my bones are showing, “ she said while pointing to the bones beneath her clavicle, and “My stomach is huge”, pointing to her completely flat stomach.  She knew she couldn’t possibly lose more body fat, and yet she felt her stomach was too fat.  

It’s a dichotomy that I cannot overcome as both photographer and sort-of therapist.  When I photograph a client with BDD, they have no reasonable expectation of the end product.  My most sincere compliments fall on deaf ears.

Most clients come in not knowing, or feeling unsure if they will love their images but then feel validated and beautiful upon seeing their images.  Clients with BDD will never be able to see past their flaws.  They see flaws that are unnoticeable by other people.  I could argue that we all feel that way to see some degree, at least at one time or another. 

My job is to create space for every client to love themselves, to celebrate their bodies.  How do I make her believe that what she has to offer the world is so much more than her body or looks?

Society has a lot of oppressive ideologies that rob us of happiness.  Self-acceptance is a freedom of its own.