Boudoir Betty

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5 Myths about Intimate Portraiture or Lies You Tell Yourself

“I Need to Lose Weight First.”

Nope.  Really.  I became a pin up and boudoir photographer after having my own pin up photos done.   While I had lost weight over the course of a year, I wasn’t at my smallest and actually went on to lose even more weight after the session.  But that’s not why I don’t feel you need to lose weight before booking a session. 

Remember that it’s the job of your photographer to put you in poses and lighting setups that will flatter you the most.  I’ve photographed women at all sizes, and at all stages in their life.  Not only do I know how to make you look good, I enjoy making you look and feel like a supermodel.

“I Need to Have a Boyfriend or Girlfriend to Gift These Portraits to.”

Says who? An artistic portrait session is all about celebrating you for YOU.  If someone else happens to be in the picture, that’s just a bonus.

Most of the time, my clients are celebrating a milestone of some sort, a birthday, anniversary, or even a divorce.  

For me, I booked my first session because I just wanted memories of me looking my best, so I could look back and say, “Damn, I was really hot.” Now, I just say “Damn, I AM hot. 

There’s something about seeing yourself through someone else’s eyes, or in this case, a lens.  That is transformative power of excellent photography; it can literally change how you see yourself. 

It’s too Expensive, or I Can’t Afford It.”

How often do you spend money on things or experiences that are fleeting? That morning latte, the pedicures, the facials, dinners out…

I had a client book a shoot once before she went in to have a breast removed due to breast cancer.   It’s a powerful reminder about the importance of memories. 

Incidentally, this same client booked a session after her surgery too. 

“I Don’t Want to be Naked, and I Don’t Feel Comfortable in Lingerie.”

Ok.  You don’t have to be naked if you don’t want to, AND you don’t even have to wear lingerie. 

Button-down shirts, cardigans, oversize sweaters and sweatshirts, tank top and panties, or a beautiful silk robe all work in place of traditional lingerie.  

In fact, just see my post entitled “Boudoir Bodies”; those two gals rocked a tank top and sporty panties for their sessions.

“I Don’t Want Anyone to See Photos of my Session Online.”

That’s certainly understandable, and a completely valid concern.  I value my clients’ trust and privacy.  If you don’t wish to share your experience, that’s totally ok with me. 

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